A Super-sensitive person is someone that is easily hurt emotionally.
- Someone who reacts according to the attitudes and feelings of others.
- Someone that is excessively or abnormally susceptible to others’ comments.
So, if any of us are a super-sensitive person, we are not ready for marriage.
- We need to mature and toughen like a reptile.
- We must let the comments roll off like a duck lets the water roll off.
- We should shake the hurt feelings off like a dog shakes water off.
- We are obliged to look inside to see how we are contributing to the sensitivity issue.
First John 2:16 says, “For all that is in the world – the desires of the flesh and the desires of the eyes and pride in possessions – is not from the Father but is from the world.”
We are in the world but not of the world. We are chosen, set apart, sanctified, Holy children of God and should not think and act the way the world does. Saints must not give in to the desires and emotions of the flesh, as the world does, becoming hurt at the slightest comment, objection, or rejection. If we walk in love as 1st Peter 4:8 tells us to do, we will be able to repel the super-sensitive feelings. The apostle Peter told us, “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.”
King Solomon said in Proverbs 15:1 that, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
And in Proverbs 12:18, “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts;
but the tongue of the wise brings healing.”
Do we give gentle answers or respond harshly to others?
Do we choose our words wisely or spew the first thing that comes to mind?
If we have an attitude of replying sharply, rudely, disrespectfully to others now, that same attitude will carry over into our marriage.
We need to work on the attitude problem before we get to the altar.
Instead of us wearing our feelings on our sleeves, letting others’ comments dictate how we react; we should “cast our burden on the LORD and He will sustain us.” Psalm 55:22.
- He is the one that can help us let go of super-sensitivity.
- God is the one that will strengthen us when we’re feeling hurt.
- Jehovah is the one that can prepare us for our godly mate.
We need to turn it over to Jesus, work to conform to His image, turn our emotions over to Him; and try to live according to God’s standards.
All scripture references in this chapter from the English Standard Version (ESV)
Check out my blog next Saturday to see how ‘pride’ affects a relationship.