RULES OF ENGAGEMENT

Once we meet the requirements of being a wife or husband of noble character, we’re probably ready to open our eyes to meet ‘that special someone.’

Ladies, men do the chasing but women do the choosing.

Gentlemen, I’m not implying that you don’t have a voice in the arrangement. But if you’ve eyeballed a potential mate and asked her out, you’ve indicated your interest. I’m just stating that women may have several suitors and must decide which one meets the criteria for the man she wants to marry (prayerfully, after seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit). It is also usually the male who asks the female to marry him and the woman, therefore, must choose to accept the man’s request for marriage.

I’ve heard of situations where couples testified that they knew their mate was going to become their wife/husband the first time they met. Most of us are not that fortunate, not surrendered to God, or haven’t matured in our ‘faith’ walk to understand when the Holy Spirit is speaking to us.

Christian women – it’s okay to flirt, to let a Christian man know that you are interested. If you never make eye contact, never smile, never flip your hair slightly, how will he know that you are interested in him?

We women also need to be cognizant when a brother in Christ is flirting with us.

Ladies, according to my great-nephew, Brian, men are just as nervous about approaching a lady as we are about flirting with them. They have fears of rejection just like we do. No one wants to be rejected. So, we must be kind and considerate, even if we’re not interested.

If we are interested, we should smile, hold eye contact for a few seconds, stop and talk to him.

I’m guilty of rushing out of stores, theaters, and churches after smiling and making contact with a single man. Then a few days later, I’ll reflect on the meeting and comprehend that he was flirting with me, trying to approach me, and I didn’t show interest.

Matthew 19:5-6 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife; and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

 

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