I’ve heard couples testify that they knew their mate was going to become their wife/husband the first time they met them. Most of us waiting for a mate was not that fortunate; not surrendered to God enough, or haven’t matured in our ‘faith’ walk to know when the Holy Spirit was speaking to us.

Once we feel we meet the requirements of being a wife or husband of noble character, we’re probably ready to open our eyes to meet ‘that special someone.’

Ladies, men do the chasing but women do the choosing.

Gentlemen, I’m not implying that you don’t have a voice in the arrangement. But if you’ve eyeballed a potential mate and asked her out, you’ve indicated that you are interested in her. I’m just stating that women may have several suitors and must decide which one meets the criteria for the man she would want to marry (prayerfully after seeking guidance from the Holy Spirit). It is also usually the male who asks the female to marry him and the woman, therefore, must choose to accept the man’s request for marriage.

Christian women, it’s okay to flirt, to let a Christian man know that you are interested. If you never make eye contact, never smile, never flip your hair slightly, how will he know that you are paying attention to his advances?

We women also need to be cognizant when a brother in Christ is flirting with us.

Ladies, according to my great nephew, Brian, men are just as nervous about approaching a female as we are about flirting with them. They have fears of rejection just like we do.

No one wants to be rejected.

So we must be kind and considerate, even if we’re not attracted.

If we are interested, we should smile, hold eye contact for a few seconds, stop and talk to him. I’m guilty of rushing out of stores, theaters, and churches after smiling and making eye contact with a single man. Then a few days later, I’ll reflect on the meeting and comprehend that he was flirting with me, trying to approach me, and I didn’t show interest.

“19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”           Galatians 5:19-21