MARRIAGE IS A TEAM EFFORT – THE WOMAN’S ROLE

Women, have you learned to be submissive?

Can you submit to your husband in everything?

I’m not talking about being a doormat.

I’m not speaking about letting someone think for you, use you, abuse you.

I’m not suggesting you lose your own individuality. God made you unique and special; a helpmate to the man.

(The godly mate will be able to recognize your unique and special characteristics and will treat you as the precious, royal vessel that you are.)

Ladies, submissive does not mean weak!

Submission simply means to be humble; to defer to the opinion or authority of another.

We can be humble and still have an opinion.

We can refer to the opinion of our husband in major decision making and still give important input.

Remember, marriage is a team effort.

Women, can you let a man be the head of your life? Can you respect a man even when you’re angry with him?

That’s what we need to do if we expect to be godly and supportive wives. The Bible says the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. Many of us women have issues with a ‘man’ being our head. Well, we will have to deal with it and ask the Holy Spirit to help us be submissive if we desire to be a godly, loving, submissive, respectful wife, as Paul talks about.

Ladies, we still need to respect our husbands, as head of the family in God’s eyesight, even when we’re hurt and angry.

He may be incorrect in what he said or rude in how he said it. We need to go to God in prayer, tell Him about our hurt, pain, feelings of disrespect, and then tell our mate honestly how we feel without yelling, manipulating, crying, or judging.

Never, never, never go to sleep angry with your spouse. 

Ephesians 4:26 tells us, “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.”

We should always talk about what hurt us, settle the dispute before we retire for the night, and tell our mate that we love him. (This goes for men too).

“You must be renewed in mind and spirit.  Ephesians 4:23 (REB)

I’ll conclude the discussion on insecurity in next Saturday’s post.