Men, can you love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her?

Can you love your wives as your own bodies?

Can you give up your life for her, if necessary?

If not, you’re not ready to be married.

God and the Apostle Paul are not only telling you to love your wives but to love us as Christ loved the church, to be willing to give your life for us.

Prayerfully it would never come to that type of situation, but you need to assess if you are willing to love your wife that deeply and sincerely.

Can you love, protect, prevent hurt, harm, and damage to your mate before considering yourself?

Gentlemen, can you be the ‘head’ that studies the word of God in order to make your wife holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word?

Are you already immersed in God’s word, filled with His Holy Spirit, led and directed by what His Word says so you can help your wife grow more spiritually after she marries you?

Are you mature in Christ enough that you can make your wife holy through the Word, as the scriptures state?

You need to come to the marriage ceremony prepared and ready.

It’s too late to start reading and studying your Bible after you’re married if you want to be the kind of husband the Bible talks about.

Yes, you could ‘chance’ it but it will be a rocky start to the marriage.

Why take that chance?

Marriage is challenging enough when both partners are saved, sanctified, and the Holy Spirit is the third partner in the relationship.

What did you decide? Are you ready to be a submissive wife or a loving husband?

If you replied ‘yes’, that’s wonderful.

But we need to deal with the issue of insecurity.

A person can love us with all his/her heart and do everything the Bible tells them to but we would still be miserable if we haven’t dealt with the insecurity issue.

Our spouse cannot make us feel secure –

that is something within us that we need to take to God.


We can be delivered from insecurity and the nagging feeling of fear and anxiety hovering over us.

We need to be delivered from insecurity before we are ready to become a godly, stable spouse.

“And put on the new nature created in God’s likeness, which shows itself in the upright and devout life called for by the truth.”…Ephesians 4:24 (REB)