You may be able to discover the purpose of destructive behavior by the way it makes you FEEL.
If you feel annoyed – The individual may be trying to get your attention.
If you feel irritated – They may be attempting to bond or connect with you.
If you feel powerless – Your friend, associate, or family member may be attempting to gain control over their own lives.
If you feel hurt – The person may feel victimized and deal with their pain by seeking revenge.
If you feel helpless – The negative behavior may be from the person feeling discouraged and deciding to pull away.